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5 steps to discovering your true dream

Ready to discover your dream?

A dream is a glorious destination where everything is just as you wish it to be. You have the freedom to do what you want, when you want with whoever you want. If anything was possible, if you had all the time and money you needed, what would you choose to do?

Thinking in this way may seem idyllic but it lets you identify what you truly desire from your life. Only you can know what this is and it will be unique to you. You deserve an Original Life, one that’s tailored to you and that you love living.

Your dreams are not a faraway destination. They are meant to be lived and they are in reach right now. That’s because dreams don’t start over there but right here.

1. Create your dream space

We dream best when we have space.

At night, away from demands and distractions, our minds can find the greatest clarity. You don’t have to wait for sleep to experience this. You can create a dream space now.

Start by finding a quiet place where you know you can be alone for a while or, if you can’t do that, put in some headphones and listen to something that blocks out noise such as the sound of an ocean, forest, rain or uplifting music without words.

Take a few breaths then reach for your notebook. Pour out the thoughts that are swirling in your mind right now. Get out anything that’s troubling you, tasks that need to be completed and any thing else on your mind. Don’t stop to think. Just let your the words flow out. Keep writing until you have cleared space for your dreams.

2. Release pressure 

Don’t put pressure on yourself when you’re ready to dream.

So many people chase passion or purpose and, when they can’t find it immediately, feel hopeless or lost. It’s much better to follow your energy instead. What gives you a buzz? What activities make time fly?

If you don’t know, spend a few days, weeks if necessary, in observance. Be conscious of how you feel when you complete different activities. Keep the pressure off and play. Try new things. Experiment. Allow yourself to be surprised. 

Keep a notebook close by to capture ideas and inspiration in the moment and explore your experiences later through journalling when you have some quiet time. Notice what gives you energy. This is an important clue. 

3. Interview yourself

Once you know what gives you energy, use questions to start exploring your dreams.

Keep in mind what truly energises you, what you’re good at, what could earn you money and what the world may need. A combination of these four things could give you the strongest sense of purpose.

It’s equally important to explore what you don’t want. What drains you? Where do you hate being? Who do you loathe being around? What fills you with dread?

Be truthful with yourself and don’t be held back with worries about how you will do it, what others might think, what people expect of you, how scary it seems, how far away it feels or any obstacles in the way.

You don’t have to know all the answers right away. This isn’t something you have to complete in one sitting or achieve through force. Listen to your heart as you spend time in nature, go for walks, visit new places and go about your life. Take your time.

Uncovering your dream is not a race. It’s a journey that can take surprising directions. 

4. Know how you want to feel

Once you start to gain clarity, you may find you are juggling several ideas for dreams in your mind or you may have a broad idea for what your want but it feels vague.

This is the time to dig deeper, to ask yourself ‘why?’

Why do you love doing this? Why do you want that? Keep asking yourself ‘why’ until the deeper meaning reveals itself. Deep down are you looking for freedom, security, peace, love, enjoyment or something else?

Understanding this will tell you how you want your dream to make you ‘feel’. This is really important because, if a path you’re considering won’t lead to you feeling this way, it might not be the right one for you. You may get there but you’re likely to feel hollow.

What will truly bring you the feeling you desire?

Knowing how you want to ‘feel’ will bring you closer to your dreams. Dreams should not be ‘chased’. Once you know what you want, you can live your dream as often as you choose. You’ll embrace the journey.

For example, if you dream of being an artist because you want to feel fulfilled, you might not be able to do it full-time right away, but you could commit to spending a small amount of time painting every day. You can be an artist and feel fulfilled now.

You may need more than one dream to get the feeling you’re looking for, but all must compliment each other or they will cause discord. For example, you may have one dream for your career and one for your relationships but together they make you truly happy.

5. Commit fully

Whether you have one dream or several that compliment each other, commit fully in your heart. You may find it motivational to tell people or you may want to work on your plans quietly until you’re ready to share it. Do what’s right for you.

Committing fully does not mean taking drastic action like quitting your job or cutting people out your life with immediate effect. Take time to plan out your dream journey.

One of the best ways to make your commitment is by creating a vision board. It’s wonderful to spend time visualising your dreams and it’s great to have your board as a regular reminder of your desires.

You deserve your dreams. Don’t chase them. Commit and live them daily.

About Loretta Milan

Loretta Milan is a certified coach, international speaker and founder of Original Life. She's on a mission to inspire everyone to create the life they love and make their dreams happen. She loves stationery, travel and tea.


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