Every one of us is given a wonderful but brief opportunity to do something amazing in the world and enjoy living in a way that brings fulfilment and happiness. We all deserve joy.
Some people get a great start in life and happiness comes more easily. Others get a tougher start or face a challenge that gets in the way of the life they’d love to lead. Life, unfortunately, is not always fair. But, it can be transformed any time you choose.
If you love your life, that’s fantastic. Enjoy every moment and share the joy.
However, if you aren’t where you want to be, or you know things could be improved, there are five great ways to start creating a life you love and you can take the first step today.
1. Discover what’s truly important to you and bring more of it into your life
Before you can start creating a life you love, you need to know what it is you want and why. Many people have an idea as to what they want in life but, because they aren’t clear on the reasons, may end up chasing goals that won’t actually bring them joy while their underlying, true desires go unfulfilled.
For example, many dream of having a six-figure income or a million pounds in the bank. This sounds great, but, what’s more important is why a person wants more money. Is the underlying desire, maybe, to have peace of mind, afford more time with family, have freedom of choice or the flexibility to travel? This is what really matters.
Grab your notebook and answer the following questions:
- What is truly important to me?
- Why is that? What does it bring me?
- Is there anything that’s more important than that? (Keep repeating this question until you have no more answers or you find yourself going around in circles).
- What can’t I live without?
Really push yourself to go deep. This powerful exercise can be very revealing.
Once you have a strong idea of what really matters to you, you’ll be in a strong position to take steps that will help you create a life that will bring your true happiness and fulfilment.
Our Life Planners are a great way to discover your desires and visualise your dream life.
2. Build a runway and fly closer to your dreams every day
If you’re not happy with your life right now, it may be tempting to quit cold and put everything into your dreams. However, it’s rare for a dream to materialise right away and you may up resenting the thing you deeply desire because you’ve given up everything for it. Consider creating a runway instead.
- What steps do you need to take to get to where you want to be?
- How long will you realistically need to get there?
- What do you need from your runway? Earnings to invest? More time? Less stress?
- How can you improve your life while you’re still on your runway?
It helps, at this point, to look back at your responses to the first exercise where you identified what really matters to you. How many of these things can you bring into your life now, even if it’s in smaller amounts. For example, if you want more time with loved ones, how can you create extra moments this week, this month, this year?
In your notebook, jot down all the options available to you now. Use the best to create a plan with a pace that fits your schedule and lifestyle. Take regular action. This will create momentum that should both encourage and motivate you.
3. Nurture your wellbeing and relationships
If you have big dreams, especially around building wealth, it can be easy to become one-dimensional and you can find yourself chasing this desire at the cost of all else. Take time to get the people you love on board and carve out time for them. When you reach your dream, you want the people you love to be there to enjoy it with you.
Make time for your wellbeing too. Your mental and physical health is the foundation to success and, without it, nothing can be done. Try to do at least one thing to boost your wellbeing every day whether it’s getting a good night’s sleep, meditation, regular deep breathing or anything that lifts you up.
If there are toxic people in your life, and avoiding them completely isn’t an option, consider how you can create as much space from them as possible and minimise your exposure. You could also create a recovery plan to help lift you back up after you’ve spent time with them. This could be, for example, a phone call to a close friend who gives you perspective, journalling to let your frustrations out, a run or a meditation to calm your thoughts.
4. Make time for play and do the unexpected
Life is richer for surprises. They shake up your routine and give new perspectives. So, make time to be playful and experiment. Try a new craft, go to a networking event to meet new people, go on a zip wire. Surprise yourself!
Also create opportunities for spontaneity. It’s great to plan but over-planning can make life too rigid. Doing the unexpected can be liberating and you may discover a great opportunity.
5. Spend time in your happy place
Life has its ups and downs but, regardless of what’s going on in the world, you can spend time in your happy place whenever you choose.
The best place to start is gratitude. Turn to a fresh page in your notebook and write down all the things you are thankful for, big and small, from the money you’ve earned recently to the sun shining in the sky. Feel the positive vibes expanding inside yourself.
Then close your eyes. Think of a memory or future place that makes you feel happy. Maybe it’s spending time with a loved one, a holiday, special occasion or some other wonderful moment. As you think about this place, let feelings of happiness grow inside you. Feel the glow. Stay in this place as long as you can.
Whenever you need a boost or to raise your vibration, come back to this place.
You truly deserve your dreams and to live a life you love.